Hello beautiful people of Expansive Capacity!
It’s time once again for Superpower Sunday! 🙂
As always, this is all about how we can implement wee changes that may turbocharge our *existing* superpowers so that we don’t dim our own lights due to inertia, stress, or any other upper-limit problem that reveals itself along the path.
Since this month is all about Your Relationship with Being Seen, we’re gonna have a look at the reality of being seen — ever — and that’s the confrontation of low-enoughness called vulnerability.
Now, I know better than to try and take on Brené Brown’s life’s work in this area (but I will link to it). Vulnerability is its own animal. It comes with hangovers. It can break us open in good ways and bad.
And the truth of it is, there’s no level of visibility that comes with ZERO vulnerability. I’m guessing you MIGHT be able to avoid being vulnerable by choosing the life of a hermit, never leaving the house, never going online, never speaking to anyone at all, ever. But I’m not certain of that.
To live is to be vulnerable. To live as an artist is to be vulnerable. To open your heart enough to be able to connect with material, an audience, and your gifts requires vulnerability. To give, we must first receive energy that we translate into our art. Receiving requires vulnerability.
Where are you currently feeling vulnerable?
No, I’m not asking you to identify your most vulnerable place, pry it open wider, and stand back as you get a steady stream of terrifying data that, yep, sure enough, you’re way damn vulnerable! 😉
I’d just like you to look at a place where you’re vulnerable… and maybe feeling safe enough to allow a little more space there.
I’d also like for you to consider a place where you no longer feel you are painfully vulnerable (like, maybe in the comments of our Expansive Capacity membership pages, or in a text chain with your accountability buddies) and remember that once you were extremely vulnerable there.
And notice that the way we become less vulnerable is by BEING vulnerable… and living through it.
What have you already lived through?
What are you currently living through?
Where is vulnerability OKAY in your life right now?
Can you begin to ease this feeling into the scarier places? Like when you post that new video. When you send that scary email. When you decide to share your values unapologetically. KNOWING you will get pushback. KNOWING you will receive the opposite of fanmail. KNOWING you will lose followers and “fans” (in quotation marks because of course you know they are not in your third).
Let me know how vulnerability — or rather, fear of being more vulnerable than you’ve already learned to be comfortable being — plays into your current relationship with being seen.
Can you see how your existing vulnerability IS a superpower?
Admin Note: Your December Aligned Hustle Calendar is at the Welcome page if you haven’t already snagged your copy. (And of course, I invite you to check out my astro goodies if going deeper with this feels like it’s lining up. Free-level astro goodness is here as well.)
Let’s keep jamming on this topic at the dojo ’til December’s topic, Your Relationship with Your True North, increases its visibility on the 1st. Woo HOO!
You’re doing great and you continue to inspire me, lovelies! I’ll see you in the dojo for these final days of November! XO
All my love,
Enoughness is an inside job… and sometimes you need a guide to find your way there. Let Bonnie Gillespie get you started.