In this week’s column, I’m going to dole out the most outrageous advice I’ve ever given. But first, a little context.

The bulk of the emails I receive can be put, roughly, into three categories. There’s the “help me choose a headshot,” “help me sign with an agent,” “help me identify my type” type of emails. (And I’ve covered this territory before, as there is a ton of homework an actor can do before approaching anyone for help in this area.) The second category includes good advice-seeking: “I have done my research and have come up with X. Here’s a follow-up question I have about my specific situation.” And it also includes good sharing: “Here’s a submission for Self-Produced Clip of the Week,” or, “I found a resource I think your readers should know about.”

And the third email category is probably my least favorite — as I can’t always ignore, or help out with a quick link back to related previous columns (like I will with the first category emails), or easily answer or thank actors for the info (like I will with the second category emails) — and it’s what leads me to this week’s scandalous advice. These are the emails in which actors explain to me all of the reasons that none of what I advise works. “I still can’t nail down my type.” “My headshots still don’t work.” “My agent isn’t getting me out.” “My manager won’t return my calls.” “I don’t get anywhere with CD workshops.” “No one will watch my demo reel.” “I’ve spent hundreds in mass mailings.” “Showcases are a waste of time.” “I don’t have an idea for self-producing and I can’t find a team of collaborators who will work with me.” Bottom line: NOTHING’S WORKING AND I’VE TRIED EVERYTHING.

Oh, dear. No you haven’t. You haven’t tried everything and for me to rehash all of the things that you could try (starting with adopting a better attitude about the entire pursuit of acting, which is of course the first thing I would do, and have done, with actors like this) would be a waste of my time and yours. You’ve already decided that your life is filled with limitations that you can’t conquer. You’ve tried everything. (Or so you think.) And nothing works. (That, my friend, is true.) So, the only piece of advice left for you, when you really, truly have tried everything else to get that edge is this: Just get better.

Seriously. Get better. Be more talented. If it’s true that you have tried everything else, maybe the answer to the question isn’t “trying” anything else. Maybe the answer is: You just aren’t talented enough to compete in this industry.

Gasp! Did Bonnie Gillespie — who loves to encourage and support and cheer on actors of all levels from all parts of the world as they live their dreams — just call me untalented?

Yes. If you are an actor who absolutely has tried — with gusto — everything else and you still find yourself coming up short, I’m suggesting that you consider the possibility that what is holding you back is quite simply your lack of talent. This, my friends, is the Super Bowl of Acting. Even the pros ride the bench much of the time. You actually want the honor of some decent playing time with these folks? Get better. Train. Become more talented.

Who’s your favorite actor? Are you as talented as he or she is? No? Why not? Get better. Make it your mission to be the best that you can be. Get into that master class you’ve been drooling over. Can’t afford it right now? Then gather with a group of colleagues and pull sides off Showfax each week, working out with material that’s actually out there from projects that are casting right now. Roll tape and watch yourself — really watch yourself — to learn what your tics or tricks might be. You probably have “bad actor habits” you didn’t even know about. Fix those. Malcolm Gladwell says it takes 10,000 hours of practice to become a master of anything. Have you put 10,000 hours into your career as an actor?

I’m not talking about 10,000 hours including bitching about your agent or doing a mass mailing to managers who aren’t even seeking your type. Not including driving to auditions or meeting for lunch with fellow actors to complain about how slow it is right now. Not editing your demo reel or doing a typing exercise. I’m talking about 10,000 hours spent on your craft as an actor. Have you come anywhere close to doing that over the past decade? Most actors aren’t in class weekly, forever, to begin with. Those who are in class weekly, forever, are maybe spending a half-hour in each week’s class up and in front of the coach, getting feedback and reworking a scene they may have prepped for an hour outside of class. Right? Do you realize how many weeks of that type of commitment we’re talking about, before coming anywhere close to 10,000 hours?

Say you don’t buy into “The 10,000 Hour Rule” from Outliers. That’s okay! But wouldn’t you say that you probably need something greater than 90 minutes of craft-specific work per week, if you really are hoping to compete in this Super Bowl of Acting? Of course! Yet most actors in Los Angeles are sure that they’re doing plenty. Okay, then let’s look at what you are willing to do, and have decided isn’t working. Let’s go back to that list from the category-three example email I provided, up top.

“I still can’t nail down my type.” Then hire an expert. Yes, you can absolutely nail down your type on your own, using the budget plan (a list of adjectives and a group of people, each with a pen and a stack of index cards ready to go), but if you’re sure that’s not cutting it for you, hire a pro to help you through the typing game. I’m willing to bet, though — if you’re sure you can’t nail down your type without outside opinion — you’re going to resist what they try to tell you too. Seems to be a pattern.

“My headshots still don’t work.” Is it that you don’t look like your headshots when you walk in the room? Then choose better, more-representative headshots. I’m willing to bet there are better shots in the mix from your most recent shoot. So you don’t even have to reshoot in order to get better headshots, much of the time. Usually, when an actor’s headshot isn’t working, it’s because he or she chose the primary shot with no input from the photographer, an agent, a manager, a coach, or anyone on the casting side of the biz, all of whom would have a more objective opinion on which shot works best. Again, this is usually the case of an actor being sure he or she knows better, despite having asked for — and having received — great advice.

“My agent isn’t getting me out.” “My manager won’t return my calls.” When’s the last time you had a face-to-face with your manager? Did you sign with a “sign ’em and shelve ’em” agent in the first place? Have you never actually met? Because your agent and your manager are components of your team, it is essential that your relationship be in good working order as you move forward in this business. Your career goals should be clearly spelled out and your team should be comprised of folks who not only “get you” but agree on how best to market you, at what level, on what types of projects, and with what spin. If you never had that type of relationship with your representatives, you may have been too desperate to get a logo — any logo — on your resumé, causing you to be less-than-picky about assembling your team. If you’re with a team that just needs a refresher course in “all things you,” then schedule a meeting, take ’em to lunch, bring by some coffee, something! But if you’re with a team that you really just slapped together without much thought, reboot and start over. Because in that case, what you have right now is not a “team,” anyway.

“I don’t get anywhere with CD workshops.” Surprise! Most actors don’t. It’s like playing the lottery. Many will play, few will win. So, please don’t complain that you are actually living the odds they tell you you’ll most-likely be living, when you go into those things. Very, very few actors have any success (much less major success) from workshops. That’s why the testimonials of those who do book and who are happy with the process are so prominently featured by workshop facilities. Most actors who do CD workshops will never be called into a casting office as a result of their time in a workshop. That’s just a fact. Same as these facts: Most actors who mail headshots to casting offices won’t be called in. Most actors who do plays for which industry turns out won’t be called in. Most actors who audition for projects don’t get cast. It’s just the way it is, folks. But it works for some. So many take a shot at it. As they say, “You can’t win if you don’t play.”

“No one will watch my demo reel.” True. Well, almost true. Someone, somewhere will watch it. Again, it’s an odds thing. Odds are, most folks won’t watch your reel once you’ve gone to the trouble to get it to ’em (more on this in this week’s Your Turn, below). We may click a link and watch a few seconds of your work to get a sense of who you are and what you’re about, sure. Or not. But because someone, somewhere, someday may watch your demo reel and hire you because of what they see on it, you do have to have one! It’s about risk assessment and when you can help us eliminate the “what ifs” about casting you just by showing us something on your reel, that’s going to make the difference in whether you get cast or not, sometimes. But yeah, more people will not watch your reel than will watch your reel. That’s true.

“I’ve spent hundreds in mass mailings.” Stop doing that. Mass mailings almost never work. Targeted mailings sometimes do work, but that involves loads of research (which actors like the ones who write these “category three” emails to me each week tend to hate to do) and even then it might not lead to direct results. It’s like everything else: It’s not the one thing you do. It’s all the things you do. And by doing lots of different things, you do “up” the odds that something might happen, over time. But mass mailings based on what’s said in agency guides or what’s listed on production reports aren’t going to be worth the investment, generally. Of course, research costs much less, but most actors would rather spend money on mass mailings than spend time doing research. Pff. Whatever! Actor Darwinism, baby.

“Showcases are a waste of time.” Technically, nothing is a waste of time, simply because you have the opportunity to learn and grow by having done it. And you’re building relationships at every turn. But, just like with CD workshops and plays, showcases are — for most actors involved — not going to yield any direct results. Sure, some actors will take meetings with (and sign with) agents and managers, some will get producer callbacks (and book) off their showcase performances, many actors from the league schools’ bicoastal showcases will pop on the radar of industry folks who otherwise would never know those actors existed. But many more actors will leave the showcase experience having no better agent or manager than when he or she went into the experience, and it may be years before a CD who attended has a role for which she’ll call someone she scouted there. It’s a marathon, not a sprint.

“I don’t have an idea for self-producing and I can’t find a team of collaborators who will work with me.” Well, at this point, I wouldn’t want to work with an actor filled with so many excuses either. 😉 And of course, I’ve already explained that I think an actor who has this many excuses actually isn’t ready to compete at the level he or she is attempting. Self-producing is a wonderful way to get really clear on how much of a pro you might (or might not) be! And I’m willing to bet that cleaning up the ‘tude would be the first step in moving toward a group of people who would want to collaborate on a self-produced project. Have you ever noticed how some people are just always working on something? It never hurts them too much when a project goes away, because there are always another three pots on the stove, ready to be attended to somehow. All burners, always on, at some level of heat. Something’s always cookin’. You know the type. Wanna be the type?

Just get better!

Bonnie Gillespie is living her dreams by helping others figure out how to live theirs. Wanna work with Bon? Start here. Thanks!

Originally published by Actors Access at Please support the many wonderful resources provided by the Breakdown Services family. This posting is the author’s personal archive.

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  1. Tatom Pender January 8, 2013 at 10:15 am


    “You can’t win if you don’t play.” That is by far one of my favorite Bonnie-ism’s. You know the industry phrase “Hurry up & wait!”? Most of the time it’s a phrase you only hear on set but I’ve learned it applies in all aspects of this industry–especially as an actor. The “hurry” is all the research, the “10,000 hours”, and the hard work we put into each part of our business as an actor. The “wait”– well, I’m sure each of us knows what that is. You have to do the “hurry” & the “play”-ing in order to get the opportunity to “win”. That is why I love your blog, “Just Get Better”. Something we need consistently yet don’t get enough of as actors is tough love. Personally, I would rather have you yell at me through a blog (and for it to affect and change me) than to get on set and get reprimanded or humiliated or called out in front of the cast and crew. Being on set is tough. It is not a walk in the park so maybe that’s the point. We “hurry” and “play” and put our all into this so that when we get that opportunity, we are prepared to do our job.

    That’s my two cents.

    Tatom Pender

    1. Bonnie Gillespie January 8, 2013 at 10:41 am

      Tatom, you’re awesome. Thank you. 🙂 I hear so many actors say, “I’ve tried EVERYTHING,” but when I ask them WHY they’re getting in front of this particular casting associate at this specific CD workshop, they can’t tell me. They’ve done NO research on the buyers and why it is (specifically) that they need to know the actors exist. There’s always more we can be doing: training, researching, getting out there and doing things for ourselves (as much as we can) so we’re ready when the opportunities that aren’t in our control come along. 😀

      Love your perspective! Thank you so much for sharing! And good for you, doing the work so that being on set is always a blast!! Yay!

  2. Jackie Goldston January 9, 2013 at 8:56 am


    You’re the gluten/diary free icing to my GF/DF cake, the envelope to my card, the hairspray to my style.

    That said, this column gives me a GREAT IDEA FOR A SELF-PRODUCED WORK!

    Thank you for all you do for us (grandiose accent…) actors and actresseszzz,


    1. Bonnie Gillespie January 9, 2013 at 9:41 am

      Aw, thanks, Jackie. I cannot WAIT to find out more about your creative burst of content creation! Yay! Rock it out!

  3. Cindy Nguyen June 7, 2015 at 12:23 am

    I’m THAT actor. Or somehow I’ve allowed myself to turn into THAT actor, since I was first introduced to you through your 2014 workshop at Chapman University. Currently, I’m feeling so lost and confused on this journey, and I’m afraid my fear keeps growing and growing the more I try to analyze it. I fear that everything THAT actor is fearing. And I’m letting it get the best of me. Thank goodness I found this blog through the Dichotomy blog (thanks for the helpful redirected links!). The Dichotomy is what I’m feeling so frustrated at, but like this blog says, I need to JUST GET BETTER. Or truly take some healthy, “refresh” time off like you suggested in the Bitter Actor Syndrome blog I read after this one.
    Thank you for writing this Bonnie. Thank you for being the little nudge on my journey.
    – Cindy Nguyen

    1. Bonnie Gillespie July 23, 2015 at 10:40 pm

      You’ve GOT this, Cindy! Just recognizing it’s an issue is the surest way to begin rerouting your journey to Bitterville into one that’s way more exciting and enjoyable! Hope you’ve taken that “refresh” time and that you’re feeling renewed… or closer to the true YOU! <3

  4. Diana Castrillon July 24, 2015 at 9:08 am

    Bonnie when it comes to the biz, you really know the business. I look back, reflect and chart out my plan ( my map). It is always changing because along the way I might encounter roadblocks, accidents or unforeseen challenges but I continue on my journey. When you mention those long hours of research and doing the work, it resonates within every inch of my fiber. Because I can honestly say, I do put in the work. When I read your book back in 2008, and then I finally got the chance to meet you at SMFA NYC 2014. You truly are so inspiring, and truthful about the biz. But the way you lay it out for us actors, who are willing to listen and actually follow through, your words are wired into my brain and I can’t help but ask, what would Bonnie do? Would she approve of your business etiquette? I finally moved to California and I chip away at the tools or skills I have acquired along the way because I am here living my dream, have been living the dream, and will continue to live the dream. When I picture myself doing an acceptance speech, or winning an award, I practice a lot in front of the mirror, I ask myself who are the people, I want to thank, who are the ones that actually make my list, Bonnie you are on my list. My heart, my soul Thanks you, kindly, beautiful Southern belle. Diana

    1. Bonnie Gillespie July 25, 2015 at 1:10 am

      Diana, huge thanks for all the love and for sharing your journey with me! I hope to see you again in NY very soon! 🙂 Just always check in with what resonates with your GUT. Let your spirit lead. You’ve got this! I’m glad I get to be a part of this, but know you’re in charge of knowing what’s right for YOU! XO


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