Be the lighthouse, not the liferaft. This is something I’ve been saying forever.
We often see people out there in need of help and we get out in the water with them, hoping they’ll stop flailing. Hoping they’ll hang onto us. Hoping that our energy will sustain the both of us while we struggle back to shore. Often, in this scenario, we end up exhausted… and the person we rescued gets back out in that water again anyway.
When instead we’re the lighthouse, standing still and consistently shining our light from the shore, we help illuminate a solution for all who wish to change course and head our way. We do not end this energetic encounter spent and frustrated. We remain luminous and strong. Role modeling through our subtle moves that everyone can get to a more stable place when they follow the light.
How can you remember this when you feel compelled to dive into deep, dark waters?